Loneliness, sadness, pain, depression and the most dangerous thing for man is fear…..
It’s all hard, but we all do it ourselves….. We have these feelings and because of them we look for security in other people, we make friends that are not for us, we get into relationships without even knowing who we are…..

I’ve been through all that, so I know…

You are lonely and that voice inside you, the voice of fear, you can’t silence it… It keeps repeating: “No one loves you, you don’t even have friends, you will be alone for the rest of your life” and so on….

The combination of fear and loneliness is not good at all….. Then we do things that harm us even more….. We don’t ask for help, we drown, we fall into depression, we give up on life, we lose ourselves so that we don’t even know who we are… .
We try to fit in, make friends with people we don’t like, get into relationships… Just to make that voice disappear… But it’s still there… Why?

Do you wonder why your friendships or relationships are short-lived?

Because of that voice…..

Let’s put it this way…
You meet a person, they show you a little attention and love, that’s enough for you and that’s the right person for you…Isn’t it?
You love that person, with some flaw in you, and then you start to wonder if you chose the wrong person?…..
In moments when you are more lonely and filled with fear, you don’t need a relationship or a friendship…..
It’s all just the hard way…

Let’s say you entered into that relationship, you get a little love, a little attention, someone loves you, you are safe, you are not alone but you are not happy either…..
In that relationship, you lose yourself, in order to keep someone you don’t need….
You do everything that person wants, you adapt to her, you fulfill her needs, you want her to be happy…. Why?
For one touch, one kiss or maybe you are happy?
I think you are just hiding, creating a lie and believing it….I know….
You are not happy, you convince yourself that you are so that the relationship would last, but you are not….
After a while you see how it is, you fight, it starts to suffocate you…..Because it’s not you…
You start some changes, think about yourself, look for a reason to be happy and still not lose that person….
It doesn’t work like that…

That person met you as a different person, he doesn’t want changes, he doesn’t want to be happy….
He wants you as he met you, broken and full of fear…..
It controls you more easily that way….Many think it’s love but it’s not…..
You do everything to make someone happy and he is happy, and you?
Are you happy?
Does that person accept the changes that make you happy?
If you devote more time to yourself and not to that person, if you say no to things you don’t want, stand up and you didn’t do it before, your changes don’t suit that person…..
Then insults will do everything to return you to your old state and it will succeed…… Using insults, humiliation, various other stories and threats will return you to a worse state than you were…..
You are hurt…
You don’t know that person now do you?
I have to tell you that you attracted that person, that person is broken like you with the same feelings…..And he just doesn’t want to lose what you gave, that’s why he will fight in every way to keep you…..
You gave that person what you wanted back…..
All that happened is that you just gave and gave and gave, then you lost yourself, you didn’t know who you were, you missed the loneliness you were running away from, you look in the mirror and you don’t know yourself, you became what someone else wants you to be…..
Getting out of a relationship is still easier than getting out of a marriage…
Many women live in such a marriage for the rest of their lives, they get a little happiness, a lot of illness and an early death…..
Your soul doesn’t accept it, it fights inside you for something better, and it will fight until the last breath if you don’t hear it……
When you hear her screaming inside you and you listen to her, then you begin to change and then you are alone again…..
Then you regret it, it was better for you to be with someone than to be alone again, reconcile…..Then it gets even worse…..You can do this for the rest of your life…..

You will always find such people because these people are a reflection of you and your feelings…. You can accept it, live with such a person, be unhappy, look for happiness in material things, but you can also take advantage of your loneliness…..

Returning to yourself is a difficult path, but not impossible…

Seek help or study alone…..Love yourself and your loneliness, overcome fear….Maybe you are destined to be alone and happy for the rest of your life…..
Get ready, go out to a bar or a restaurant, maybe just for a coffee… Treat yourself…
Be in the company of the best person, yourself…. You don’t need anyone’s company…..
Go for a walk, go swimming, do whatever you like with yourself…
You will feel happiness, joy, contentment, peace and love for yourself….. You will be grateful for your loneliness…..
When you are fulfilled and happy, when you know who you are and what you want, your real person will appear…..
The same applies to friendships…..It’s better to have no friends than to have those who only take advantage of you…

Love is not only giving, but also receiving…