I will tell you the story of a woman who chose the past and hatred….It all started much earlier, but let’s start from when she got married….That’s where her big problems started, while her resentment towards life started much earlier.. ..According to her story, everything was fine, I listen and I can’t believe it…..No matter how much she talks now about the past, she still has problems….She got married, no one loved her in that family, everyone was against her….They chased her out of the house, humiliated her, insulted her….However, she gave birth to children.It was difficult for her…..Telling me about constant problems from the past, I always gave her a couple of solutions, which she could then choose….She justifies herself and doesn’t accept, she even gets angry with me….Like that I don’t understand what happened to her…… That hatred, anger, disappointment in life can be felt even now in her voice….. You can see the resentment in her eyes…. She could have changed all that wanted to, she had so many opportunities that life offered her, but she simply wanted to be there….. She simply didn’t know how to be happy…. For her, happiness is in material things, she is still looking for it there today… But that happiness is gone in a day, and then again the same….I tried to help her, to explain, but she doesn’t want…..My words are worthless…..For someone to change his life, he has to say Enough and make some decisions, no matter how difficult they are. ….

What do we get if we stick to the past?

The past….Everyone has so many things they would change…..But would it be you, if all that had not happened?

Be grateful for your past, find that good thing that came after the bad….I did…..My past strengthened me, gave me lessons and experiences, what I want and what I don’t…..I love my past, thanks to her, I am the person who writes this, a person who looks at life differently and wants to help… Believe me, I wouldn’t change a single thing, no matter how hard it was….. It all happened because of me, for my good… Honestly it took me a long time to figure it out…..

Thinking about the past and problems from the past, talking about it every day, reliving it all over and over again, just hurts you….

An example is the woman I am writing to you about…. She did so much harm to herself and she is still doing it to this day…. Her health condition is bad, and she is about 60 years old…. She had over 10 operations on various organs, the last one had a heart operation where she barely survived….Even after that she didn’t want to change anything….She takes over 20 pills a day to be able to get out of bed….There is nothing healthy in her body…. I don’t want to list anything more…. I can also tell you that everything that she hated from her past and what she was afraid of not repeating to her children, happened…. That’s what hatred and the past do….

So leave her, forgive her, take good things out of her and move on…. Because it can happen again to people close to you…

She made it!

I know a woman who succeeded….I am so proud of her….Now I will tell you her story….

She was married for about 30 years (now she is about 50, age is not important for a better life), her husband was an alcoholic who harassed her daily…. There were also father-in-law and mother-in-law who did not fare better….. ..Her family didn’t talk to her, her husband took care of it….She had no one and no place….She lived very badly and it was hard for me to see it….She was exhausted that she didn’t want to live. …She had two children.She hid from them bruises and tears every day…..But she always said: “I will get out of here, animals live better here than me”….When the children were a little older, they did not defend her , they got used to it….One day they found her unconscious on the floor…..According to her words, she lay beaten for two days…..Then she said Enough….

She took a few things and left in an unknown country, without accommodation,without money didn’t even know the language… But she succeeded….. I heard it from a friend, but I didn’t believe it….. One day she reached me A message on Facebook, from a woman I don’t know… The name is familiar, but the woman in the picture and the last name are not…. She changed her last name…. I was wondering who this woman is…. I go to the profile and see. ….It was her….I called her, we talked for hours, we’re still talking now….She looked phenomenal, I couldn’t recognize her…A smile replaced her tears….She was overjoyed. ….There was a sparkle in her eyes, it was wonderful to look at her…..She found a job, accommodation and successfully learned the language……She even met, according to her words, the man of her dreams who showed her what love is….Now enjoying life….